"How are you?" I asked.
"Okay," was her uninterested response.
"I see you have your "In Christ" scriptures out."
"Yeah," was all I got in return. She did not want to talk about it. I kissed her forehead goodnight and went to bed.
The next morning I checked in with facebook to have my morning chat with a good friend. There was her post! "I am not who you say I am. I am who God says I am!" Posted after her statement was a list of the loving and empowering things that God says about His children. As a Life Coach, and more personally as a parent, I felt a great victory. She rejected a negative judgement of herself in favor of the beautiful truths she chose to believe in that moment.
How about you? What self-judgments have you embraced? Where did they come from, and how do they affect your life?
Did your favorite teacher sharply criticize your work; now you tell yourself you are stupid? Did your father tell you that you were born to be a doctor; now you are feeling trapped in med school? Perhaps a boyfriend or girlfriend said you were ugly; now you hate who you see in the mirror?
On the positive side, did your parents encourage you to try new things and learn from mistakes; now you attack life fearlessly? Did your best childhood friend tell you that you were fun to be around; now you make friends easily?
Ultimately, you choose whose voice you believe. Choose wisely! Who do you say you are?
NEVER let someone else, with their own hurts, issues and insecurities define who you are! Be uniquely you! Share you with everyone you are in relationship with.
Oh...with her post on facebook was a picture she took of a bumblebee on a flower. The bee didn't listen to the scientists who told her that her wings were too small to lift her body off the ground. She happily flies from flower to flower enjoying a truly fulfilling life and making the world more beautiful for the rest of us.
